When a relationship ends, it’s so painful.
Whether you were broken up with or did the breaking up ~ it doesn’t matter, it hurts either way.
Too often, when I was dating, I kept the hurt alive by pining for my ex ~ even when I initiated the breakup!
“Why couldn’t he have been The One?”
“Why did he leave?”
“Maybe we can get back together...”
But all this ruminating just kept me locked in the hurt.
And it kept me from getting my life back because my focus remained on “us” instead of on “me.”
But it was my choice to think those thoughts.
And once I started taking charge of my thoughts, I began to make my way back to myself.
I reframed my thinking.
“Why couldn’t he have been The One” becomes—> “Now I’m freed up to find The One!”
“Why did he leave?” becomes —> “It doesn’t matter why he left. He’s gone, so clearly it wasn’t meant to be.”
“Maybe we can get back together...” becomes —> “We broke up because it wasn’t working. There’s someone out there who’s a MUCH better match for me!”
We can’t control a lot of things in life, but we CAN control our thoughts!